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PSA for fellow men 

i cant tell you how many times i see someone on here post about how men are awful and some dude chimes in with "haha yeah we suck". do you know what youre doing? youre taking that statement and making it about yourself. youre literally just as bad as a not all men guy, except maybe somehow even worse because you are looking for sympathy for your acknowledgment that you are terrible. your words mean nothing. learn to shut up.

PSA for fellow men 

i dont know if we can fix this toxic brew we call cis masculinity but we have to at least try and probably the least we can do is leave people who arent men the hell alone when they complain about us.

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PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith Goes double for dudes who are gonna be like "I apologize on behalf of my gender" tbh

Go home

re: PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith It's the good ol' self-deprecation for woke internet points.

PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith and the same goes for other privileged categories (whiteness, cisness, neurotypicalness, etc.).

PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith put another way: when choosing a place to wrestle with your woke guilt, somebody else's replies are not an appropriate selection

PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith More generally still: when moved to sympathy by a report of somebody's bad experience, under no circumstances should you use an expression of condolences as an opportunity to point out that you didn't do it. Nobody thought you did.

You're seeking exoneration because you feel guilt, and you need to learn how to avoid feeling that guilt incontinently. Get help in private from a trusted friend, not in public from someone who literally just said they've got bigger problems.

PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith Toxic masculinity permits expressing emotion explosively or not at all. "I'm one of the good ones!" is an example of the explosive way. Catch yourself doing it.

PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith Yeah we do that sometimes haha we are so stupid!

PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith finally, a PSA, but for men

@dankwraith masc nonbinary but yeah i do suck ass and no i wont shut up

re: PSA for fellow men 

@dankwraith
I don't suck.

re: PSA for fellow men, a joke 

@dankwraith haha yeah i'm so like that

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