about half the time people go "I hate men [edit: * I meant to say cis men]," they're talking about things I've seen straight men do a lot regardless of trans status, and that I've never really seen gay men do regardless of trans status
just in general people seem to go "hmm, as regards my gender analysis, trans men are… some totally new thing that I am utterly helpless to describe or reason about"
which like, cool that you are a baby brand new to being alive, I guess, but I've met trans men and they're not very hard to reason about. at least, not any harder to reason about than men generally, who can be pretty hard to reason about, because they're pretty different from one another.
you caught that point, right? trans men are just men. they often share experiences that fall outside of the normative idea of "manhood," as is true of all marginalized groups of men. they can be marginalized along the axis of gender, like other marginalized groups of men.
and then people just assume gay men are easy to understand in the framework of normative manhood
trans men? huge mystery. couldn't possibly speak on it, or compare it to anything familiar, or think about it at all
gay men? that's just a straight male oppressor with a coat of rainbow paint, and I won't be thinking about it all
like nobody's going "I hate men [edit: * I should have said straight men]"… even when it's relevant!
and it often is! standard, mainstream ideas about what men are and do — even feminist ones — are defined around coercive heterosexual relationships with women that gay men disproportionately and characteristically do not enter. it MATTERS whether a man is gay to the relevance of basic feminist analyses to his life!
again, the common factors here are:
1). this is what a man is. a man includes this, includes trans men, includes gay men.
does that make it harder to talk about men in simple, binary, either oppressor or oppressed ways? good
2). whether I claim to understand trans or gay men (as reducible to facile understandings of normative manhood), or claim it's a deeply mysterious esoeteric subjectivity that has no relation to the familiar category "man,"
I Will Not Be Thinking About What The Structural Position Of Marginalized Men Is. I Will Not Be Examining It Closely
gay trans men: caught between being treated as a "solved, trivial problem" unworthy of further examination, and being treated as a total mystery that feminist analysis must never presume to examine
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