Men perform masculinity for other men, and straights are encouraged to do so because they are told this will make them appealing to straight women, who are otherwise completely inscrutable and speak another language.

When straight women tell straight men what they actually want, it gets ignored -- because straight women are supposed to not ever say what they mean.

When straight women express interest in men who don't adhere to masculine norms, straight men's response is bewilderment and, often, anger and mockery directed at the sexy yet unmanly man.

@ancient_domains_of_word There's literally nothing more attractive to me than a man being genuine and excited about something. It's the opposite of performance 😅🙂

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